Alcohol & endo
Hello, I was diagnosed with stage 3 endo and adenomyosis as well as irritable bladder over a year ago.
I feel zero support from my husbands family. They like to binge drink and often push me to do the same which is not good to begin with, but with endo is a nightmare. They also eat unhealthy food. My husband does the same and often makes me feel guilty when I do not want to spend a lot of time with his family.
Every summer and around the holidays he always wants to invite his family for an overnight, which for me means two days of constant peer pressure to drink, rude comments and just pushing every boundary I have. I just give in most of the time and then pay for it for a week. I know this is mot good.
Another one of these events is coming up at the end of my vacation week which I am really upset about. I have decided to say no, and my husband is now guilt tripping me because I do not want to spend two days getting drunk with his family at my house.
I am leaving for the weekend to go spend time with my mom instead.
Is it unreasonable that I never want to spend extended periods of time with my husbands family because of substance use? I also cannot go to party’s or anything with my husband because of this and am happy when he is gone because he is constantly looking for reassurance from me.
Just so fed up.
You have every right to be fed up, and it's cruel that your husband and his family aren't in complete support of what you need! I support you, and your decision 1000% !!!!!!!
First, I want to say I'm so sorry to hear you're in this position. You don't deserve to be treated this way. It is absolutely not unreasonable to not want to be in your house and participate in their activities. You clearly know what is best for your body, and their guilt trips are rude and the opposite of compassionate. I'm glad to hear you'll be going to stay with your mom, but I wish it didn't have to come to that for you. I have a couple of ideas of things you could try, but I don't want to overstep, so let me know if you're open to hearing them. Wishing you ease and a relaxing time with your mom. ~Katrina, Endometriosis.net Advocate
