Endometriosis and sex

Hello , firstly I just want to say, you rock. Your partner’s feelings and enjoyment seem super important to you, which is of course how it should be, but I just wanted to thank you for being like that. Not everyone is like you 😉

The fact that you actively “check in” and ask is key. But I would also add, that in my experience, sometimes too many questions can add a little pressure. We also need time to maybe, veeeeeery slowly, ease into it all, and work out if what we are doing feels good. Just because it’s not great immediately doesn’t mean it won’t be super good in a few minutes.

In my case, there are certain positions that work better than others, and that’s one thing that’s good to have in mind. So maybe a casual, fun conversation in a relaxed environment, over dinner, or coffee, when you’re casually hanging out, about what she enjoys the most, can be a super useful thing to do.

It may be worth, on her side, to have a diary, or a calendar, just to be aware of the days in which sex can be more painful. This should not eliminate the ability to be spontaneous, but it can help you be more informed on when to be extra careful, or maybe leave out penetration from the equation.

I hope this helps. I am just another patient and an advocate of this disease, so I am speaking from my own experience. The links Joanna shared above are all super interesting reads, so do check them out.

In the meantime, if you have more questions, reach out to us, and we will do our best to help 😀 – Jessie (team member)

I know the other ladies provided you with some pretty awesome advice but I just wanted to chime in as well. Firstly say, you are seriously awesome for reaching out for advice and trying to do what you can to help your partner. This makes my heart so very happy!

Secondly, agree with what was said above. Just checking in is really important. Different positions are certainly better than others. It is important to try them all out and see what feels the best. Missionary style certainly worked best for me and my partner as well as Christina said.

Here is an article that may be helpful as well. https://endometriosis.net/living/tips-sex/

Hoping this was all helpful. Sending you and your partner good thoughts! -Kimberli (Team member)

Hi! I just wanted to share info on a free webinar regarding endometriosis and sexual health led by Dr. Kathy Huang at NYU Langone this upcoming Monday, May 24, 2021. Dr. Huang is an excision surgery (nd one of my doctors) with a focus on increasing education, conversation and community for those of us, on topics that range from non-surgical approaches, comorbidities and sexual health. Please join us!


https://nyulangone.zoom.us/webinar/register/2816207720751/WN_slJkLOh8Su-DzMkOL4yMAA

It's a sign of a great partner that you're asking questions like this. Pelvic floor therapy, extra lubrication, lots of foreplay, and a clitoral vibrator have all worked wonders when it comes to penetrative sex.


Often, there are local sexual health shops that can give tips on ways to make sex more comfortable for both parties. I went to one in my own town and the person who ran it was a sexual health educator. They had all kinds of resources for how to make sex less painful, including advice about toys and pillows.


I'll also share stories about what's worked for me. Wishing you both well! - Keri (endometriosis.net team member)


https://endometriosis.net/living/pelvic-floor-therapy-sex


https://endometriosis.net/living/sex-diary-1


https://endometriosis.net/living/sex-books