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Support Your Partner By Looking After Yourself

No doubt you’ve heard the adage, “You can’t pour from an empty cup”. This is referring to the energy, time, care, and attention you can offer to those around you when you are lacking in energy yourself, when you aren’t giving yourself enough time, care, and attention.

Looking after someone who is sick can be challenging and its vital to take care of yourself – to build yourself up and nurture yourself so that you have enough to give effectively to those who need it. If your partner is struggling with endometriosis, you have the opportunity to help them, and improve their situation a little. You can take some of the burden from them, and help them navigate the condition and get on top of their symptoms. However, spend all of your attention and energy on your partner and neglect yourself, your support will dry up and your compassion will run thin. You may build resentment towards your partner for taking time and attention away from other aspects of your life and you may blame them for dropped balls and missed opportunities. It doesn’t have to be this way, though, and it’s possible to support your partner is a sustainable and impactful way that will change both of your lives for the better. Here are some things that I’ve found help fill my cup, and allow me to overflow and fill those around me.

Look after your health

I watch my partner try different techniques to manage her endometriosis symptoms, and in the last year or so, I have adopted some of these myself. Man, I wish I’d done this sooner! By following the example of my partner, my physical and mental state is in a better place than perhaps it’s ever been. I exercise regularly, which gives me more energy and clearer thinking, both of which allow me to support my partner better when she is struggling with endometriosis symptoms. I eat a healthy and varied diet, and include some supplements and superfoods. I wake up easier and have energy straight away so I’m able to help my partner wipe away her fatigue and get going in the morning. And I look after my mental health by following my partners example of meditation and mindfulness. To be honest, I still haven’t worked this into my routine fully, I’m still working on it, but I know that when I do my mind is in a far better place to support my partner, and I can make clearer decisions and avoid the traps of resentment and misplaced frustration.

Do something for yourself

It’s important to have some time away from caring for your partner. Your partner can and should be the centre of your world, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t need time for yourself. For example, I play Dungeons & Dragons. Perhaps a bit niche for most of the audience, but it allows me a few hours of escapism where finding treasure and slaying trolls is the most pressing issue to attend to. I can come back to my partner renewed and with energy I’ve gained from a group play experience. Just be sure that your partner can reach you in case they need you.

Talk to someone

Finally, talk to the people around you about how you find supporting your partner through a chronic condition. This might be a therapist or a counselor, or it might be a friend or family member. It should also be your partner themselves, as it’s important you are vocal and communicative with each other about struggles and challenges. With regards to therapy, don’t let cost, time, or location put you off. There are many online or app-based therapy services available today that are just an internet search away and, depending on where you live, you may qualify for a limited number of free therapy or counseling sessions through your health services.

Taking the time to refill your cup is essential to be caring, loving, and able to share your abundance with those around you. Invest a little time and attention in to yourself and both you and your partner will reap the benefits.

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