How Understanding Your Partner's Cycle Can Help With Supporting Their Endometriosis
My partner has been on a mission recently to better understand her cycle, and live a life that is in tune with her monthly rhythm. This seems to be having a very positive effect on her energy levels, productivity, and general well-being. So naturally, I thought there’d be some tips I could learn from the menstrual-sympathetic way of life – here’s some of the ways I’ve found that understanding my partners cycle helps me support her better with her endometriosis.
Everybody’s body and cycle is different, especially when a complicated condition like endometriosis is involved, so don’t take what I write here as gospel. It is a rough guide, and it seems to match my partner’s cycle, but listen to your partner and her body – they know best!
Phase 1: Pre-ovulation
During this phase, which may happen 7-10 days after the bleed, energy is in abundance. Generally, people feel much more upbeat and positive during this phase so it’s a good time to execute plans. Your partner will also be enthusiastic about you during this phase. Have good conversation, go for dinner, go to the movies, rekindle your friendship, and nourish each other’s souls – it will go a long way towards your partner feeling supported and cared for.
Phase 2: Ovulation
This is the phase where the egg is released and the body is trying to make a baby. Your partner will likely be at their full potential during this phase. As with the previous phase, make use of this time when endo symptoms might be at their lowest. This is a good time to meet up with friends or see the in-laws, maybe some shopping, with less of a threat of endo ruining your plans.
Phase 3: Pre-menstruation
Ahh the dreaded PMS, three letters to strike fear in to the heart of any man. This is indeed the phase where certain hormones withdraw and your partner is left feeling teary, sensitive, lacking in self-confidence. Cramps, tender breasts, fatigue and other classic pre-menstrual symptoms happen during this phase, and with endometriosis this can be many times worse. Be there for your partner during this phase, but don’t be overbearing. Give her space, but be available when she needs it. Fatigue and brain fog may be worse for endo patients during this phase, so give your partner time and be patient.
Phase 4: Menstruation
This is the phase when your partner will bleed, and when classic endometriosis symptoms of painful cramps and heavy bleeding will be at their worst. Now is the time to be there to cook dinner, get the hot water bottle out of the cupboard, make difficult decisions like what to watch on Netflix, and basically allow your partner to rest.
A great book on this topic is Code Red by Lisa Lister. This book covers the topic of living in tune with your cycle, and has been an invaluable source of information for me and my partner. This is not a sponsored post, we’ve just found this to be a super helpful resource and highly recommend it.
Have you ever experienced one or more of these side effects from your hormone therapy?