Feeling Sexy with Endometriosis
Endometriosis is not a sexy illness. To be fair, no illnesses are sexy, but endometriosis takes the cake. There is, of course, the relentless bleeding, sometimes up to two weeks out of a month. Add to that the near-constant fatigue which makes you lose all interest in any sort of activity, let alone sex. Or what about endo belly, which is not at all sexy? With endometriosis, our bodies seem to conspire against us at every turn.
What does it mean to feel sexy
Endometriosis makes me feel miserable. Especially before I had my hysterectomy, I often had a hard time feeling like a proper woman, let alone sexy. The media tells us sexy women are slim and energetic. Being in pain all the time is probably as far removed from sexy as you can be.
However, that does not mean that when you have endometriosis you can’t ever feel sexy. It might take a bit of work, especially when you are in pain a lot. And remember: sexy does not mean being attractive to other people, needing their validation. No, it merely means that you are a confident woman, who loves her own body and isn’t afraid to show it.
Be kind to yourself
We are often far too hard on ourselves and our bodies. Part of that is social conditioning. We have been led to believe that there is a certain standard of beauty we need to adhere to, and chronic illnesses don’t belong in that picture. But no one can stop us from feeling sexy no matter what our bodies are doing. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are beautiful even with an endo belly and a bleeding uterus.
Feeling sexy is about more than just how you look. We are all strong warriors, dealing with an illness that tries to undermine us at every turn. Our struggle is sexy.
When your body seems to make it its mission to torture you, it’s hard to want to slip into a sexy set of lingerie (also because of the aforementioned blood). But you don’t need a thin strip of lace to feel sexy. If you need bigger underwear, why not embrace that? Put a bit of lipstick on, or get a nice haircut. It’s not about appearance, but sometimes we like wearing nice clothes to feel more confident and sexy. That could even mean a cute pair of shoes.
Pamper yourself with a nice face mask or a warm bath. Buy a lovely smelling body lotion and really massage your skin. Love your body for all its flaws and acknowledge how strong you are for getting up each day and leading a semi-normal life no matter what endometriosis throws at you.
We can all feel sexy. We don’t need outside validation of this. And, as with everything, practice makes perfect. You’re not going to feel confident all the time. But that doesn’t mean that we never get to feel confident, beautiful, and sexy with endometriosis.
Has intimacy with your partner been affected because of endometriosis symptoms?